You might be wondering, what’s the big deal with spooning? Actually, I was too, I did not know about the massive concern until recently. For everyone’s information, “Is spooning a sin?” is probably one of the most asked questions from Catholic couples all over the world. And as a practicing Catholic, I kind of understand where does this come from.
People are likely morally conscientious and want to make sure that their intimacy with their partners lines up with the teachings of the Church.
And that’s a good thing!
What is spooning?
Spooning is a term used to describe a position that two people assume when they sleep together. One person lies on their side, with one arm under the other person’s neck and the other arm wrapped around them, while the other person does the same thing.
For married couples, spooning is not an issue at all. They already made vows under the Sacrament of Marriage. They are to build their own family. So sex is something they are allowed to do.
CCC 2360 Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.
Signs of affection like spooning are fine with them but for those who are single couples, this may cause a possible transgression.
Spooning can lead to sin or what we call near-occasion sin if it becomes too intimate. This can eventually result in sexual intercourse between two single individuals.
And this is what they should be mindful of.
According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church,
CCC 2353 Fornication is carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children. Moreover, it is a grave scandal when there is corruption of the young.
Fornication includes all types of sexual activity that are not within the bounds of marriage.
Aside from spooning, there are also a lot of other signs of affection that could lead unmarried partners to sin. They should also be cautious of what can kissing, intimate hugging and other forms of cuddling can bring.
Self-control and modesty are ingredients to remaining chaste.
CCC 2522 Modesty protects the mystery of persons and their love. It encourages patience and moderation in loving relationships; it requires that the conditions for the definitive giving and commitment of man and woman to one another be fulfilled. Modesty is decency. It inspires one’s choice of clothing. It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet.
Nowadays, in this digital age, people seem to undermine the value of chastity. Making out, sex before marriage, and promiscuity are normalized.
As Catholics, it is our duty to follow the teachings of the Church and to be a good example to others, especially young people. That they may also cherish the gift of chastity. I know at times it is hard but God will sustain us. And it’s all worth it in the end.
Spooning is not a Sin
Now, let’s answer the question.
Is spooning a sin?
Spooning is not a sin. But, it can lead to a sin such as fornication. Unmarried couples should take into consideration that this sign of affection can result in a temptation causing them to sin.
Spooning is a way to cuddle with one’s partner, and it should not be sexual.
If you’re spooning with someone of the opposite sex, it’s important to keep in mind that either you or your partner is prone to temptation and can take the act as an invitation to something more.
Chastity is one of the sins that people can easily fall into.
As Catholics, we should control ourselves to avoid the temptations of the flesh. Although spooning due to taking a nap, or sleeping with your boyfriend or girlfriend is not a sin, we should still be mindful of the repercussions it can bring.
One thing that keeps me focused to be chaste is what Our Lady of Fatima told the visionary, St. Jacinta.
“The sins which cause most souls to go to hell are the sins of the flesh.”
May we all practice chastity. And when tempted, may we ask the Our Lady to get us through it.
That we may pray daily with love and trust, especially in moments of temptation, Loving Mother pray for us.